Raising kids while caring for aging parents is pushing many families to the edge. Between school drop-offs, work demands, and medical emergencies, the stress of handling everything—often without compensation or assistance—is causing more people to speak out.
As burnout increases, so do tough conversations about the true meaning of family support. One reader, Nancy, wrote to share why she refused to care for her mother without being paid.
Nancy’s letter:
Dear,
My name is Nancy, and I’m a 35-year-old single mother raising three children—ages 7, 3, and 6 months.
My 74-year-old mother lives with us rent-free and, until recently, helped care for my kids. Unfortunately, she had a serious fall and is now unable to remain active or provide help.
She didn’t want to move into a nursing home, so I offered to continue caring for her at home, on the condition that she compensate me for my time and effort.
Her response was disheartening. She said, “I’m your mom—you owe me!”
That same evening, my oldest son called me in a panic. I was stunned.
My mother had taken matters into her own hands—she’d called a nursing home, and they were coming to get her. But that wasn’t the only shock.
