Modern pedagogy often supports the idea that we should not set limits for children so as not to hinder their development. However, it is crucial to rediscover the importance of saying « no » to our children for their development and well-being. Here are some tips for relearning how to set limits constructively.
1. Be strict
It’s essential not to always be complacent with your children. When you ask for something, do it seriously and firmly. House rules must be strictly enforced, with no exceptions except in exceptional cases. This consistency helps children understand boundaries and develop internal discipline.
2. Give explanations
For children to accept restrictions, it’s important that they understand the reasons behind them. A simple, clear explanation is much more effective than the traditional « because that’s the way it is. » For example, say « Don’t bite other children because you hurt them » to explain the prohibition against biting.
